I think people don’t like making their own decisions because they fear that if it’s wrong, they have no one to blame but themselves. But I think it’s a beautiful thing to be put in a situation, make a decision with the information you have, and learn from it no matter the outcome. Failure and mistakes are helpful tools in life.
Also, I resonate with your point on things becoming easy once you have clarity on who you are. Like many people, I spent my whole life working towards a specific goal and unlike many people I was able to achieve it. But it’s a scary thing because what’s next? Being in your late 20s and having to rediscover what it is you want in life is daunting, but being forced to look inward and do what you said (therapy, journaling, etc) has been a beautiful thing.
I normally don’t read newsletters but you are actually an inspiration. You are such a girl boss so I’m taking the book recs. Thanks for sharing Ms.Oberg!
As someone who finds myself in indecision paralysis often, I love the idea that by not making a choice, you’re still choosing… loved this! TY for putting it out there. 💞
loved this! another book that has helped me a lot is the Karma of Success by Liz Tran, her podcast is great too. it’s a bit career focused but everything she talks about can be transferred to other aspects of life too
I find that listening to my intuition comes from asking myself how am I in this moment and what does it need from me?
It’s always valuable to consider how else I can be during the working day because I'm reminded that life doesn’t just happen on a Friday evening or a Sunday afternoon, it happens everywhere, all the time, and our tendency to compartmentalise means we can miss so much of what is possible for us.
What would happen if leading a meeting felt more like reading a bedtime story to the children?
How would I make colleagues and clients feel if I listened to them like I swam or went for a walk in the woods with the dogs?
We are taught how to be by the world and falling into repeated patterns of behaviour, subdues our natural instincts and skews our decision making.
Pausing to remember who else I am is like that moment you first step out onto the balcony of your hotel room and look across the sea and feel all the possibility of the days to come.
To reset, I like to ask myself, 'what else could I do in a room like this?'
This was so perfectly timed, both in terms of the theme and the fact that it offered a great reminder just as my day is getting started. Thanks for sharing :)
Love this, Emily! As the “baby” of the family who has been “shown the way” for most of my life, I’ve always had a hard time listening to myself. I’ve followed footsteps and followed advice while losing my sense of intuition. Great reminder to trust my inner voice and listen to the answer within me
I think we actually do take many classes in school (esp. the liberal arts classes) that *do* in fact tell us that we need to be thinking for and trusting in ourselves, but the problem is a lot of us either don’t understand or weren’t paying attention (I’m not victim-blaming or -shaming, just saying that fundamentally school is one of the places in which this mindset is actually developed). I also think that ideally many of us hopefully do have parents that told us to think for ourselves (though I understand this is easily one of my greatest privileges in life). I would also add Religion to your bulleted list of things that help you cultivate this mindset — it is unfortunately dying in popularity amongst our generation of Americans but I think Religion (*however* you define it for yourself) is one of the most powerful tools with which you can build this mindset.
Thanks for posting this.
I think people don’t like making their own decisions because they fear that if it’s wrong, they have no one to blame but themselves. But I think it’s a beautiful thing to be put in a situation, make a decision with the information you have, and learn from it no matter the outcome. Failure and mistakes are helpful tools in life.
Also, I resonate with your point on things becoming easy once you have clarity on who you are. Like many people, I spent my whole life working towards a specific goal and unlike many people I was able to achieve it. But it’s a scary thing because what’s next? Being in your late 20s and having to rediscover what it is you want in life is daunting, but being forced to look inward and do what you said (therapy, journaling, etc) has been a beautiful thing.
See you next Monday!
I normally don’t read newsletters but you are actually an inspiration. You are such a girl boss so I’m taking the book recs. Thanks for sharing Ms.Oberg!
Such an inspiration Emily!
As someone who finds myself in indecision paralysis often, I love the idea that by not making a choice, you’re still choosing… loved this! TY for putting it out there. 💞
I found this today and it resonated deeply as I have been going through a season of transformation. Thank you for the beautiful reminders!
It really is an art
This is inspiring - thank you for sharing.
loved this! another book that has helped me a lot is the Karma of Success by Liz Tran, her podcast is great too. it’s a bit career focused but everything she talks about can be transferred to other aspects of life too
Great list Emily.
I've developed an art-journalling practice too, which combines the expressive aspect of writing but combines my need for creativity.
It's been most useful when exploring emotional issues.
Not ignoring them but getting curious okays l instead.
<3 just when you need it. Thankyou for sharing!
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I find that listening to my intuition comes from asking myself how am I in this moment and what does it need from me?
It’s always valuable to consider how else I can be during the working day because I'm reminded that life doesn’t just happen on a Friday evening or a Sunday afternoon, it happens everywhere, all the time, and our tendency to compartmentalise means we can miss so much of what is possible for us.
What would happen if leading a meeting felt more like reading a bedtime story to the children?
How would I make colleagues and clients feel if I listened to them like I swam or went for a walk in the woods with the dogs?
We are taught how to be by the world and falling into repeated patterns of behaviour, subdues our natural instincts and skews our decision making.
Pausing to remember who else I am is like that moment you first step out onto the balcony of your hotel room and look across the sea and feel all the possibility of the days to come.
To reset, I like to ask myself, 'what else could I do in a room like this?'
Today's answer was:
When I write, I feel the future.
This saved me today — Thanks 4ever, Em🪼
This was so perfectly timed, both in terms of the theme and the fact that it offered a great reminder just as my day is getting started. Thanks for sharing :)
Love this, Emily! As the “baby” of the family who has been “shown the way” for most of my life, I’ve always had a hard time listening to myself. I’ve followed footsteps and followed advice while losing my sense of intuition. Great reminder to trust my inner voice and listen to the answer within me
I think we actually do take many classes in school (esp. the liberal arts classes) that *do* in fact tell us that we need to be thinking for and trusting in ourselves, but the problem is a lot of us either don’t understand or weren’t paying attention (I’m not victim-blaming or -shaming, just saying that fundamentally school is one of the places in which this mindset is actually developed). I also think that ideally many of us hopefully do have parents that told us to think for ourselves (though I understand this is easily one of my greatest privileges in life). I would also add Religion to your bulleted list of things that help you cultivate this mindset — it is unfortunately dying in popularity amongst our generation of Americans but I think Religion (*however* you define it for yourself) is one of the most powerful tools with which you can build this mindset.